You're a very, very bad man.
Kissing women you've just met on the lips?
In public?
You gotta love that.
And you're not rich or handsome? I don't believe it!
Of course, I've seen things like this happen so many
times that I actually DO believe it. In fact, most guys
would be very surprised if they realized just how open
many women are to kissing and "getting physical" when
they meet the right guy.
On to your questions...
ON LOOKS
As far as I'm concerned, LOOKS MATTER.
But interestingly enough, they matter for a different
reason than most guys think.
You see, women are always reading into things. They're
trying to figure out what things MEAN.
If a woman asks you if you have a close relationship
with your mom, she's not making casual conversation... she
wants to get deeper insight into how you handle
relationships. Are you with me?
My personal perspective is that IT'S NOT WHAT YOU'VE GOT,
IT'S HOW YOU USE IT. In other words, it's more important to
take care of yourself than it is to be naturally tall,
handsome, etc.
If you want to take your success with women up a notch or
two, I definitely think that it's a good idea to pay
attention to the personal presentation.
You don't have to go overboard and get plastic surgery,
liposuction, and hair implants, but a little attention to
detail can go a looooong way.
Think about it...
Generally, a stylish haircut doesn't cost any more than
an outdated haircut... but they say two completely different
things about you.
Clothes that fit correctly and flatter your particular
body type don't cost more...
Confident, dominant posture and slow, unhurried movements
don't require any more energy...
But all of these things, especially when combined and
used with other simple ideas can make a HUGE difference.
So to answer your question: Yes, looks can make a
difference to your success. If you have such a strong and
attractive personality that you attract women no matter
what, then you can look however you want. But if you're a
regular guy like me, then do everything you can. I mean,
hey... it really doesn't cost anything to look your best!
And women definitely notice.
ON GETTING WOMEN TO COME HOME WITH YOU
My focus isn't on "getting laid" alone, but I have a few
ideas that can help you.
A good friend once told me that a woman won't really want
to come DIRECTLY home with you. Women like to feel like
they've "been out" with you first.
So, to answer this concern, he goes out with women on
"mini dates" as soon as he meets them.
So, for instance, he might meet a woman at a bar or a
nightclub. Maybe they've had a few drinks together and
danced a few times... and things are going well.
He might suggest that they go to ANOTHER bar that's
close by...
When they leave TOGETHER and arrive at the other bar
TOGETHER they are now "TOGETHER". It creates a completely
different psychological setting and comfort level.
When they first met, they were just two people that
happened to be at the same bar. When they got to the
next bar, they were kind of "out on a date".
To a woman, this is a HUGE difference.
Then, after spending some time at the next bar (it's
late by this point), he'll ask her for a ride home, or
maybe suggest that she come over for a drink.
Because they've now "been out together" she tends to
feel a lot more comfortable coming over.
I usually recommend that guys approach women, get their
email and number, and move on. You can get 5 or 10 emails
and numbers in an evening, and then have dates during the
week (where you don't have to deal with distractions,
competition, etc.).
But if you're at the point where you're confident in your
skills, and this is what you want, then try the technique I
just explained. I know more than one guy that uses it, and
it seems to be a big winner.
And, if you're NOT at the point where you are confident
in your skills, then you need to get my online eBook
"Double Your Dating", and read every single page. It will
teach you all the secrets your mom and dad never told you
about... and show you how to have success with women that
you only dreamed possible.
In my book I talk more about how to improve your
appearance, how to dress, and even what types of colognes
to wear...
Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
DATING TIP: REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ATTRACTS WOMEN
We all know what Reverse Psychology is, right?
Try this one on...
I once read that the surgeon general's warning on
cigarette packages may be one of the reasons why cigarettes
are so POPULAR.
Here's the logic: When a person sees that warning that is
telling them that it's dangerous to smoke, they think to
themselves "Hey, I'm living in the fast lane and I can
handle the danger... I'll show everyone how cool I am by
smoking these dangerous cigarettes..."
Interesting idea, isn't it?
Well, it doesn't really matter if you believe that
particular example. What does matter is that you learn
how to use the idea of Reverse Psychology to your
advantage when it comes to your success with women.
Reverse Psychology is powerful because it GOES AGAINST
COMMON LOGIC AND REASONING. Because of this, it's not
usually obvious (unless you make it obvious).
One of my favorite ways to use Reverse Psychology is
in situations with attractive women.
Most guys don't really think about the fact that most
attractive women are being told ALL THE TIME that they are
beautiful, attractive, stunning, etc.
And they don't realize that when they give an attractive
woman a compliment, it often backfires on them because
they are INSTANTLY seen as being the SAME as all the other
guys out there.
We humans like unique, interesting things... we don't like
the same old same old.
Let me ask you: Would you like to eat the same thing every
day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? I mean, even if you
got to have your very favorite food for all three meals it
would get old very fast.
The same goes here. Let me explain...
Let's say you're standing in line at the bank next to a
stunning woman. What would be the best approach to use to
open a conversation and get an email address, phone number
or a date?
Well, what most guys do is either:
1) Do nothing because they don't know what to do.
2) Say "You're beautiful" just like all the other guys.
3) Say "I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?"
Bad, bad, bad.
It would be MUCH better to say "Your shoe is untied" or
even "What time is it?" than any of these common, lame,
predictable comments or questions.
You probably realize that most of your communication is
not the words you use, but the body language and voice
tone that you use.
Well, it's important when you're meeting a woman for the
first time to stay cool, calm, and collected... and to
EVEN DO THINGS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED.
This will make her say "Hey, this guy isn't trying to
horn in on me... he seems DIFFERENT."
You can then continue to do one of my favorite things of
all time, and say "Hey, you seem nice... like you might
make a nice FRIEND. Give me your number and I'll call
you next week and maybe we can be FRIENDS."
I hope you understand what I'm saying here. By being
unusual and challenging, you immediately separate
yourself from the 'average' guy who just acts all
starstruck.
Now, this is just one example, and there are many
exceptions to this idea. If you look like Brad Pitt you
can say anything you want. And this type of approach
works best on VERY ATTRACTIVE women.
Now that you have the idea, how can you adapt it to
your particular situation? Take some time to think about
it, and I think that you'll realize that you can use
reverse psychology in many different situations to
separate yourself from the crowd.
In my book "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire
section describing the exact character traits and
techniques that help to separate you from all the other
guys in the world.
Just go to:
http://deal2deal.blog.com/
...for all the details.
I'll talk to you soon.
Your friend,
David D.
www.doubleyourdating.com
P.S. When you come to my website, make sure to read the
sample section about teasing to learn more about how to
use Reverse Psychology.
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