I feel your pain on this one.
For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of
being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first meeting
to the bedroom.
And we always know when one of those risky situations is
staring us right between the eyes...
"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up
ALL of my chances with her."
"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"
"How should I ask her out?"
...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or
"Moments Of Truth."
If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY
likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up
not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.
Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman
thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."
And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"
for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?
My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one
Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.
There are things you can do at each step that make it
NATURAL for things to progress.
Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down
ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given
situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will
work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can
CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.
OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"
which contains my favorite ways to take things from
one step to the next...
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