I just broke with my wife of six years. So I´m starting

Hi turkiya!



I just broke with my wife of six years. So I´m starting

the game again. I went to a club this past weekend and

saw a very nice looking girl. She was looking at me a

lot. So I waited around ten minutes and then approach and

asked her, "Are you shy or something?" She said, Why? And

I told her "Because I've been standing here for around ten

minutes and you still haven't said hi to me." As you can

imagine she burst laughing. So I said, Hey, I'm glad you

know how to laugh. She said, So, is this the way you go

out meeting girls. I said, Nah, it's that every time I go

to some place that have girls present they all seem to

get very shy around me, since I'm such a great looking,

sexy man, AS you can see. (Said with a wink).



She kind of blush and smile. We talk for around ten

minutes and I then said, Well, let me see if I can find

my friends around here, It was a pleasure talking to you.

When I was leaving I did your e-mail close and it ran

smoothly. She put her phone number too and a note that

said, "No, I'm not shy, call me soon, C."



E.Q. From Puerto Rico



PS. In your last mailbag there was a guy who used the

c&f routine with his ex wife as practice and it worked to

get her interested in him again. I was wondering what

stuff he told her and how he did it. I'm very interested

to know his technique to see if I can get my ex wife

interested in me again.

Hey, I've been receiving your emails for awhile, and have

Hey, I've been receiving your emails for awhile, and have


been thinking, does this stuff work on guys as well? I'm

an attractive 18 yr old, and I don't often have problems

attracting males attention, but that’s about it. I don't

often get approached in clubs/bars, just looked at from

afar. Do guys think woman are promiscuous etc if they

make the first move? I mean does that kind of confidence

in a woman scare men off? A little help would be most

appreciated!



Ta!



JD

New Zealand





>>>MY COMMENTS:



Wow, now I've got attractive 18 year old women who are

trying to figure out how to get men to talk to them.



IS ANYONE OUT THERE LISTENING?



I've actually met MANY women who say that they either

aren't approached often, or when they are it's the same

old lame, boring stuff time after time...



"Can I take you out sometime?"



"So you probably have a boyfriend, right?"



Or guys just watch with the "I wish I wasn't such a

total and complete WUSSY because you're very attractive

and I'd give one of my front teeth in exchange for just

one chance to talk to you" look.



Ugh.



In any event, YES, this stuff works on guys. In fact, it

works on just about everyone. Damn shame you even need

to ask.

OK, first of all, WHY THE HELL DIDN'T YOU INCLUDE YOUR

OK, first of all, WHY THE HELL DIDN'T YOU INCLUDE YOUR


PHONE NUMBER?



I was just thinking to myself:



"You know, it sure would be great to meet an athletic,

feminine woman with a good job... maybe an architect or

something."



I don't know about the conservative, no cussing thing...

maybe I could adapt.



But to my credit, I'm NOT squishy, I have NO IDEA how to

make a strawberry daiquiri, and I hate purse shopping. I

do, however like to host an occasional tupperware party.



Think about it and get back to me.



Oh, back to your comments...



Thank you for writing in and providing another perspective.

I wish that more women would be as open and honest about

what attracts them.



I personally think that women like you who have their

lives together are too busy ENJOYING life to take the time

out to teach the mass of WUSS-BAG men out there how to

stop with the purse shopping and tupperware.



Thanks again for your email... I love sharp, honest women.

Remember the woman that had a friend that wanted to slap

Dear turkiya,




Remember the woman that had a friend that wanted to slap

the sh** out of you - you know, the crack pipe chick? That

woman was right about one thing - someone needs to get

slapped.



She does and so do all of her milk toast, clueless and

probably dog-ugly friends! How in the world did she get

"lesbian" twisted into all of that? I read the e-mail for

crying out loud, and it sounds to me like this girl's in a

slump that makes the Devil Rays look like World Series

contenders.



Injure a woman's delicate psyche? Give me a break. I hope

you guys out there don't believe a word of this girl's

whiny crap. If your girlfriends agree with her, I hope you

don't mind turning squishy and you better find a good

recipe for strawberry daiquiris and start planning for a

life filled with tupperware parties and purse shopping.



Let me set all of you guys straight who might still

possibly be on the fence at this point. Get turkiya's book.

I haven't read it yet - I'm still crackin' up over the

newsletter. I'm an attractive woman architect who works

in a man's world and would have it no other way! I'm

athletic, but still feminine. I'm pretty conservative and

don't cuss (anymore) so I'm proof that it's not just the

rough women that get turned on by the sport of a

challenging male. turkiya's right - I have a lot of male

friends and most of them want to be more than friends. I

could never put my finger on it before I started reading

turkiya's newsletters - they were nice and I've certainly

dated guys that weren't nearly as good looking as them,

but it's clear to me now. My guy friends are wusses.

Cocky + funny = SEXY! Don't ask me why, just do it. I

wish more of you would.



By the way, turkiya, the chicks out here that read (and

appreciate) your newsletter, need a formula, too.



Sincerely,



ks in Kansas City

I love letters like this one. Good for you!

I love letters like this one. Good for you!




It sounds to me like the process of getting this area of

your life handled has you pretty excited. Let it spill over

into the other areas of your life.



Great job!

***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,

***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,


or Comment, follow these guidelines***



1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.



2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your

question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"

and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"

comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of

the specifics... because this helps other guys to see

what's working in different situations.



3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in

the subject line of the email. I read these first.



4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell

me where you're from.



5) I love emails from women!



6) Send it to me at:



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This is a world-record Mailbag. The longest (and maybe the

best) one ever. Enjoy!





***SUCCESS STORY***



turkiya,



You are the Man! It took me about a month of reading

and re-reading your book. I am (was) very shy. I really

think it was more a lack of self confidence than shy. I

think I was using the word shy because I didn't want to

admit or didn't understand that it was a lack of self

confidence. I set a target date of when I was going to

let my inhibitions go and put my (your) plan to work. I

got more email addresses and phone numbers in 3 hours

than I got in 3 years. Just felt compelled to write and

say Thanks.



Hope to see you in NY

E.M. in Va.

Wow, another guy who my heart goes out to.

Wow, another guy who my heart goes out to.




I need to write a book called "Cut Your Dating In Half: A

guide for guys who are too successful with my materials."



I think what you need to do is get together with her and

say: "Look, you're acting like we're married, and you need

to cool it. I think you're great, but I'm not interested

in a relationship right now, so if you want to keep seeing

me, then you're going to need to chill."



I realize that it sounds a little bit harsh, but it's the

truth, and you need to be direct in a situation like this

one.



...and this about wraps it up.



If you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself:

"I'd sure like to have problems like that", then I'd

recommend that you go and download a copy of my online

eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it directly

to your computer and be reading in a few minutes. Go to:



http://deal2deal.blog.com



...to download it now.



And I'll talk to you again soon.



Your Friend,



turkiya D.

I got your e-mails for about a month before i actually

Hey turkiya,

I got your e-mails for about a month before i actually
bought the books and I regret waiting so long. I have never
been so confident around women. I stand as a security guard
at the entrance of a retail store and 8's, 9's, and some 10's
pass by me everyday. I used to turn my head and stare away.
Now I know what they want from reading your book and I can
look at them, talk to them, and bust their balls even without
ever meeting them.

I do have a problem though. I took this beautiful girl
out on a first date, the C&F technique worked so well all
night from the movie to the dinner to the goodnight kiss
(tongue included) that we both definitely wanted a 2nd date.
So what's the problem. She can't stop thinking about me or
leaving me alone. I'm getting 10 text messages a day from
this girl that I really only want to date a few times. I'm
enjoying this bein single dating around and she wants me to
be with her everyday. How can I slow this down, without
losing the C&F personality?

Thanks turkiya.

MM
Kentucky

I'm going to tell you something here, and leave it to you

I'm going to tell you something here, and leave it to you

to figure out why it's important:



YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT RIGHT AFTER YOU GOT HER NUMBER.



This is SUPER ULTRA EXTRA important... and I want you to

consider it in your mind until you figure out why.

On vacation in Mexico, a girl asked me if she was "super

turkiya,




On vacation in Mexico, a girl asked me if she was "super

hot" and I said "Yeah, you're alright." Next thing you know

she made it her business to prove to me how hot she was,

including some freaky dancing, even flashing me, and a

little lip action. Moral: Never give them what the want. I

moved in to kiss a girl a little too early and she backed

away. So I went back to teasing her and on the next attempt

I went straight for the neck, ears, hands in hair and well

you wouldn't believe it; but it worked that time. Your book

has a lot of very good information, thank you for putting it

together. So here's my question: This girl at my gym is of

those that I've always wanted to talk to but never really

had the chance. She was bartending the other night and I

told her I'd seen her at the gym. She said "yeah, but I

don't make it in there as much lately." I replied "Yeah, I

can tell, you're really letting yourself go." Then she gives

me a shot and asks me if I'd help her with her workout." She

also said she remembered me from the gym and I said "So you

were checking me out?" So I get her number, not bad, eh? So

I'm in the bar for another hour with some friends and I was

going to order a drink from her later, but it might've

seemed like I wanted to talk to her again. She seemed busy

and didn't look at me. Seemingly wuss behavior or she's just

busy? Who knows. That was on Saturday and I called her on

Wednesday, still no reply and today is Friday. I'm thinking

either calling her once more over the weekend, asking about

playing hard to get and if she just randomly gives out

shots, or maybe going back to her bar in a week or two with

some friends. Again, thank you for all you've done and

thanks in advance for any suggestions.

A.

I'm going to have to guess at a few things, but I'll give

I'm going to have to guess at a few things, but I'll give

it a shot.



From the sounds of it, you need to:



1) Stop with the "I had a good time" type comments when

you call for a follow up. You might experiment with

waiting longer to call... or waiting less time to call.

See what works best for you. But don't be so "nice".



2) Do more things to make your date feel ATTRACTION. Use

what you've learned to really turn the dial up. You might

test progressing further on the first date... maybe start

getting physical faster.



3) Make sure you keep her laughing, and keep busting on

her and treating her like a "friend" at first. Remember

the idea of acting like she's your Bratty Little Sister.



It sounds like you're doing something on those first

dates that's making the women resistant to seeing you

again... you need to figure out what it is and STOP IT.

I thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog...very enlightening.

Hi turkiya,




I thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog...very enlightening.

I've always found myself attracting girls I'm not

romantically interested in, while crashing and burning with

the hotties. It was very confusing until I read your book.

I realize now that I was a wuss with the hotties by being a

typical "nice guy", and that the more I acted indifferent

with the girls I didn't like, the more they ate it up. You

gave me a new perspective on what makes attraction work,

and I'm glad to see that your book pointed out that you

don't have to be a jerk to be successful.



My game has improved but it still requires some refining.

Lately I find I'm stalling out between the first and second

date. So I'm wondering if I'm screwing up the date itself or

the follow-through. Here are the steps I take after a date:



1) I call within two days to say I had a good time and

basically make contact. I end the conversation first, and

let her know I'll give her a shout in a couple days...just

so I don't seem like I'm rushing into a second date.



2) I let two or three days pass and call to make

arrangements for a second date. At this point I usually

get a vague answer like "lets set something up for next

week"...and then it never happens.



Where is this falling apart and what kind of follow-through

do you use?



Thanks for the help,



SF

London, Ontario

Wow, more priceless wisdom.

Wow, more priceless wisdom.




To answer your question, the way to see more than one

woman at a time is to NOT SEE ANY OF THEM TOO OFTEN.



When you see or talk to a woman more than once or twice

a week, it kicks in the natural "relationship" emotions

and patterns of communication and behavior.



If you keep things to once a week, and sometimes twice,

you'll tend to avoid this.



It's also good to tell the women that you're seeing that

you don't think it's a good idea to get into a relationship

too quickly with someone you just met (I believe this is

a very important idea, myself).



Thanks for the great ideas.

Yes turkiya, you are 100% correct.

Yes turkiya, you are 100% correct. Even us older, fatter,

grayer, slower wusses can learn new tricks. I went from a

4 time loser to being called biggest old stud in town! Now

that was a hell of an ego boost! Especially since I'm 48

and close to 300 lbs. and yes, at the moment, I have steady

dates for 3 days of the week every week and 5 others

professing their love for me if only I will come take them

away.



Here are what I found to work:



1) Women over 35 expect you to be extremely inventive with

a cocky funny line or extremely truthful. They all claim it

is because they have had so many used on them, they are

totally immune to them. I tend to go the extremely truthful

route. the ie. you look like the type of woman who would

like a funny witty, intelligent, romantic friend. Have you

found any lately??? I want to shake their hand. Or something

similar.



2) If you are emailing back and forth and they want your

picture within the first couple of exchanges, run do not

walk, that lady to the discard pile immediately. Most of

those are so shallow they can not and will not see what

they are doing, no matter how funny and blunt you are. I

even tried the "what’s in it for me?" line, only to get the

reply of "me stupid, but only if I like your picture"



3) When the lady says I don't think I'm really your type,

you look them straight in the eye and say "ok, plenty more

where you came from" and turn and walk away. 9 out of 10

of them will be calling you in 48 hours.



4) They all know about arranging dates for the week and

finding the dates on the weekend. So tell them you only

have like Friday, Saturday OR Sunday open but not all.

Most will tell you to rearrange your week to fit them in.

The ones really really interested will call you on Saturday

to see if you can go out on the spur of the moment.



5) I tell them all I am too much to handle and too much to

love, so being friends is just perfect. But I have zero

experience in this dating more than one woman thing at a

time. Do you have any advice. Especially since I am sure

to make a lot of mistakes. Yeah, they all want to arrange

more time with me.



So you see, your techniques work. Even my 21 y/o daughter

who reads these occasionally says, "I can't agree all the

way, but damn he sure got the last 5 guys I dated nailed"



Keep up the good work turkiya.



M.

I downloaded your book a couple months ago, and read

turkiya:

I downloaded your book a couple months ago, and read your

newsletters regularly. I have had success with women and

it's great. Here's my question. It's a common fact that

humans never stop learning, and you are no exception. What

new information have you learned recently that can

supplement the book? Can your subscribers expect a follow-up

booklet in the near future? I don't mean to be ungrateful

but now that I have read your book I feel like the most

well-informed man in the dating game. Knowledge is power and

the more I have the more power I have. Watch out ladies!!!

Can you help me out? I know you have the knowledge

thanks a lot



G- Texas

This is truth from the mountain. Read it 100 times a day.

This is truth from the mountain. Read it 100 times a day.




Print it and tape it to your computer monitor.



Put a copy in your wallet... next to the money so you see

it often.



Put one on your car sun visor and mirror.



And go read it again now.

***SUCCESS STORY***

turkiya:




Dated someone for 4 years. Turned into a wussy boy a couple

times, and both times she left me for the same guy. This guy

was a selfish, conceited jerk, but he was the ONLY guy she's

ever dated who she couldn't wrap around her finger. He was

P.S. Took this off the end of the 1st paragraph above...it


was getting too long, but I love this perspective from a

woman: While investigating this illogical phenomenon, I

asked a somewhat-attractive female friend of mine "so...can

you shed any light onto the whole 'why women are attracted

to jerks' idea?" And her answer (quote): "Because we're

too leary of a nice guy. Nice guys creep me out. They seem

like I can walk all over them and I hate that. Women want

a bit of a challenge."
an impossible challenge...and so her sexual attraction to

him was enormous. (Hmmm...is there a lesson to be learned

here...?) Since we broke up about a year ago, I've been

reading your newsletters and your ebooks. Now I'M the

challenging one. I don't flatter women with compliments, I

don't buy drinks or flowers, I split the dinner tab, I

don't always call (or call back) every day, I keep my social

life busy and interesting. And I never ever EVER lose my

composure with a woman - no matter how much I'm attracted to

them. (In truth: I caved to one woman, told her how

attracted I was to her, and instantly found myself in the

"just friends" pit of no return. Oops. Had to learn the

hard way.) Now every time a woman tries to test my level of

"wussiness" I completely annihilate them with a cocky+funny

comment...and they LOVE me for it. And...of course...guess

who suddenly wants to date me again...



Thanks D,

M.S.

Chicago

Well, if I can get myself to stop laughing, maybe I can

Well, if I can get myself to stop laughing, maybe I can


answer you!



OK, let's make sure I have the facts straight here...



You're five foot three, weigh 117, and LIKE WOMEN WITH

BIG BELLIES?



Honestly, I think you're right... I don't think that the

Cocky and Funny technique will work for you... in fact



...I DON'T THINK ANYTHING IS GOING TO WORK FOR YOU.



Make sure you don't tell any of your other guy friends

about this. It might get ugly.



By the way, you may not have considered this, but women

with big bellies usually got them from eating a lot...

and my guess is that they might be expensive dates.



Watch out.

lol... you poor, poor dear. Sounds tough, really.

lol... you poor, poor dear. Sounds tough, really.




I think you're doing fine. You're on the right track, and

I think that you're going to find an outstanding woman to

have a longer-term relationship with.



I personally think that the problem isn't the techniques

you're using, it's that you're now seeing that YOU CAN

CHOOSE A WOMAN, rather than having HER CHOOSE YOU... and

it's making you far more SELECTIVE than you were in the

past.



When you're seeing several attractive women at the same

time, you begin to realize that you can have whatever

you want. You no longer have to settle.



This has the effect of making you a lot more picky about

what you'll tolerate... and it makes you see negatives

a lot more clearly in women.



Again, I think you're doing fine. Just stick with it

and you'll find a great woman to marry again, if that's

what you want.





***QUESTION***



Hi turkiya.

I don't think the cocky/funny technique will work for me.

I'm 19 y/o, 5' 3" and 117 lb. I have an average build, dark

hair and blue eyes. I also have a fetish for girls with big

bellies. What do you think? Be honest.



SO



Birmingham, England

I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy.

Hi turkiya:




I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy. After being

recently divorced (Dec/01) after 24 yrs and thoroughly

confused about dating and what women want. I bought

[another dating book] and was even more scared to do any of

what was asked to do. I bought your course and coupled with

watching the players in clubs I knew C&F was the answer.

I used it successfully on over (9) women since Jan/02 all

resulting in them wanting much, much more* than I was

willing to give. They all call from time-to-time for fun!.



*Here is where I have the problem and it might help others

trying for this type of relationship. I am single and love

my Space and I want to have fun for a while and eventually

marry again I’m looking for Her and it takes a while to see

if she is Her I get them hooked way too fast and not trying

to do so This is how: Women are attracted to C&F, They want

fun and excitement; I think I know why they want funny for

the fun things to do in life (too many boring guys out

there) and the cocky part piques their inner flames to what

could happen as far as passion. If when you are passionate

with them you have to be a Leader and show them as bad a boy

as they can handle. This has in all instances so far lead

them to call me and pursue me: the next day and weeks ahead.

They want a far deeper relationship. They want C&F in their

lives. These are not clingy people (7-9’s)(24-44yrs) and

profess to want to be friends first. Email is great as it has

a way of helping them say things they wished they could say

in person. Do you have any wisdom on how to do C&F and not

hit all of her senses?



Thanks Again for C&F

J.

Yes, I think I can help.

Yes, I think I can help.




1. Set up a meeting for tea.

2. Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.

3. Have fun, interesting conversation.

4. Invite her back to your place.

5. Use the Kiss Test.

6. Use your creativity and imagination.



Don't focus too much on "getting with her", just focus on

getting to THE NEXT STEP.



In other words, when you email don't say something like:



"Hi, it was great meeting you. I'm single and nice, and

you seem like you'd make a great girlfriend for a sweet,

desperate loser like myself."



Stay off of heavy conversation. Don't talk about

relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk and enjoy

yourself. But keep progressing as you do.



As long as you relax and make each progressive step

easy and natural, you'll be fine.



Again, just take it one step at a time.

Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".

Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".




If you mean "When can I talk about how I'm sad because

my dog got run over and my inner child needs a hug", then

NEVER is the answer.



Well, maybe you can have one "serious" conversation like

this on the 10th date, and it can last no longer than 5

minutes.



Just stay away from heavy emotional issues, problems,

drama, and general WUSS topics.



If you need a friend, GET A DOG!



lol... I forgot where that line is from, but I love it.







***QUESTION***



Mr. DeAngelo,



Well, I've got to say, after trying many, many different

methods, yours have been the first ones to work. I cut and

pasted your online personal add and sent it out to a few

women on a college-oriented site. This is after trying

(unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort of response

from the women on the site. Before reading the newsletters,

I would've typically sent out about 20 e-mails, and got 1

response if I was lucky. This time, however, I sent out

about 5 or 6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable!

Now, for the tricky part...getting the number and the date.

I've got some leads, and I want to keep my C&F attitude up.

I'm just normally funny, but need practice at being cocky.

(I'm either too subtle, or too extreme, so I'm practicing at

finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime, what kind of

C&F response would you give to a University-aged woman?



G.



>>>MY COMMENTS:



Good job.



There are all kinds of great topics you could work with.



You could make fun of the classes they're taking, bust on

them for taking easy classes, accuse them of taking 10

years to get a 4 year degree... the list is endless.



Since you're going to be meeting these women at some

point, make sure you go and do things with them that have

"built in conversation value". Go to interesting, fun

parts of town with unusual and interesting shops.



This kind of thing creates all kinds of opportunity

for great comments... and it keeps the energy up all by

itself.



Now that you're meeting women online, do yourself a

big favor and practice your skills CHATTING with women.



Chatting is great because it slows the conversation down

to about 1/5 the normal speed, and gives you time to plan

out what you're saying.







***QUESTION***



Dear turkiya,



I'm real sorry but I still cannot figure out how to build

bridges after getting the email address. Normally the next

day I send the lady an email, she replies and then I can't

think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get

with her - so can you help me man?



I.M.

Ok turkiya, first off, I would like to say thank you for

Ok turkiya, first off, I would like to say thank you for


taking the years that you did to get all of this great

info., and then be generous enough to spread the knowledge.

Here is my situation. I knew this girl back in high school,

and I haven't seen her since graduation (about 2 yrs ago).

I bumped into her the other day and WOW (she is a 9.5 easy).

Well, having not yet tried out any of your techniques, I

thought "What the hell, let's go for it." It worked. The c/f

technique was golden. Got her email AND number. Well, we

eventually went out and had a great time. A couple of days

later, I went over to see her new place, and well, things

got a little wild. (it all started with your amazing kiss

technique- thanks again) So here's the deal. She likes me a

lot, and I like her a lot, but I have been playing back in

order to keep the ugly head of the "wussy" out of the

picture. When is a good time (or is there a good time at

all) to be serious with her? Do I bust on her all the time,

b/c I don't want her to think I am a jerk? Any help you can

give is great.



Thanks again.

ME

I know that you put real stories in these letters

turkiya,




I know that you put real stories in these letters because

I sent one in and it appeared exactly as I had written it.

I laughed till I cried over the "fat, pimply, and hairy"

story.



You are "Da man" I look forward to your wit in these

letters and I must admit I'm going to buy your book.



GJ



>>>MY COMMENTS:



Yes, all of the email letters I print in my newsletters are

ALL real. Every single one of them. I wish I had more time

in the day, because I get hundreds of them a week...



Thanks for the compliments, and enjoy.

Humor has a structure, and it can be learned. Some people

Humor has a structure, and it can be learned. Some people


have an easier time learning how to be funny than others,

but I've seen some not-too-funny people become VERY funny

with practice.



Read some books, watch Comedy Central, and practice. Start

a journal and write down funny lines you hear so you can

use them later.



Get with your Bro and watch him. Ask him for advice and

ideas. Practice. You can learn how to be funny, and it's

important that you do if you want to attract women!



As I'm sure you know, my book has some of my very favorite

"standard" lines for different situations, plus more on

how to create specific humor for specific situations. Go to:

http://deal2deal.blog.com for all the details.

I would love to say how great your stuff works,

Whats goin on turkiya?




I would love to say how great your stuff works, but I

haven't had much luck with it as of yet. I have seen it put

to good use though. My bro does the whole cocky/funny

routine naturally and I see all its power. Most of the time

I was Mr. Nice-Guy. and, of course, it didn't work as much

as I would like. Which is why I'm writing this e-mail.(duh)



My problem is I'm missing the key ingredient to your

'super recipe,' funny. The way I see it, cocky is like

garlic, by itself it is repulsive and disgusting. But when

used as a seasoning to another main dish (funny), it can do

wonders. I'm missing the main dish. Anyone can be cocky, but

I lack in the funny department. So where do I start to fix

this?



Thanks,

P in NJ

Ooooooo, good question.

Ooooooo, good question.




I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be

Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.



As they're learning the techniques, they become more and

more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing

woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",

and they decide to start a relationship.



As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to

put aside the things that worked, and start being more

and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new

woman away.



Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet

and a good guy but still have all the super hot women

calling me 24/7".



Here's what I say:



"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN,

NOT A RIGHT.



And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes

to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to

NOT drive women away, then make these things part of

"YOURSELF".



Are you with me here?



The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys

means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any

ATTRACTION for".



If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION,

then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If

you're not willing to do the work and make the changes

more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long

uphill battle.



And in your case, you have to realize that this woman

was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that

REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.

I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your

Hey turkiya....




I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your

newsletter for quite a while now. I've been meaning to buy

your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so

ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway,

i've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is

smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by

being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one

step ahead of her. It was kind of like "Dont even TRY to

challenge me, im already inside your head!". everything was

cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of

got tired of the constant effort.....so i cooled it off a

bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just

who it is she's dealing with. And i think i got screwed.

Now i feel like i've turned into a wuss....and i HATE IT !!!

no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act

she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i

can genuinely be....just nice to, with her appreciating it

and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term

relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride

without all that continuos maintenance. I dont wanna be

cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just

wants to relax. Is it possible??



F.Z, Lebanon

It's interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky

It's interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky


and Funny technique by watching guys who were good with

women. In fact, a guy who is now a good friend was trying

to explain the concept to me a few years back... and he

was the first one to say "Cocky and Funny". Of course, I

had no idea what he was talking about at the time. It

really made no sense to me.



But after I started working with it and watching other

guys who were really successful with women, I learned

how it worked.



It sounds like you're really getting it - congrats!



As for your questions...



Don't worry about being able to "come up with enough

lines to keep up a conversation". Just do what you can,

and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky and Funny lines used

here and there are MUCH better than nothing at all.



If you feel like approaching strangers, great. If you

just realize that most women are going to be nice, but

some will be either unavailable or unfriendly then

you'll be fine. I have personally had great success

meeting "strangers", and as my good friend Rick says:

Every friend you have started out as a stranger...



And as for the "5 project girls", you're cracking me

up over here. If you like the idea of staying single

and dating a lot of different women, then this is the

way to do it! Just make sure they don't turn into your

personal "psychological projects".



Thanks for your email.

I am an 18 yr old who thinks u are the BOMB.

hi turkiya




I am an 18 yr old who thinks u are the BOMB. You have

given true Players a voice.. you are the "MESSENGER". I

have been reading your newsletters for over 7 months

now and you are spot on. This is the deal, there is this

really beautiful blonde i have been friends with for a

while now I see her out a lot at clubs(College). she

always wants to dance with me (i am a decent dancer) i

have been cocky funny la la the works but now i am in

trouble, this girl fancies me and i know it, how do i

work it so that i remain in control of the situation

without getting to WUSSY ?



M.N from London

LOL! [That's "laughing out loud" in internet-talk]

LOL! [That's "laughing out loud" in internet-talk]



What are you doing whining about the techniques before

you've even tried them!?



From your short email I can guess the following:



1) You don't have a lot of success with women.



2) You over-analyse things instead of just going out

there and trying them yourself.



3) You need to download a copy of my book before you

die of no-date-itis (It's less than a meg total, not a

huge file at all). http://deal2deal.blog.com



The concepts work with women of all ages. Will you do

yourself a favor and quit arguing in your mind... and

get out there and TRY IT!





***QUESTION***



I bought the book, and it makes a lot of sense. Would

you give some examples of how an online meeting/conversation

on a personals board might go? I need a little help in the

imagination department.





>>>MY COMMENTS:



Sure. As a matter of fact, let me tease you a bit...



In my Los Angeles seminar last month, I included a whole

section on meeting women online (to go along with the portion

of the seminar where I TAUGHT everyone how to do it)...



I included several examples of things I've done PERSONALLY,

with exact transcripts, profiles, etc. Here's a little piece

of a conversation I had online with a woman awhile back,

right from the workbook:



HER: what do you look like

ME: I'm 4' 11 and I weigh 345

HER: lol, what ever

ME: I have long facial hair and a hairy back too

HER: what do you really look like

ME: Hold a sec.

HER: k

ME: Read your mail

HER: not bad

ME: I don't recall asking for your opinion



...that's a little example of how I communicate with women

online. You need to be EXTREME with the humor online. Really

turn it up. The message you're communicating is "I must be

a pretty confident and interesting guy to say that I'm four

foot eleven and weigh 345..." Get it?



Try being over-the-top Cocky and Funny. It's fun, and it works

like a charm.

OK turkiya, I have read all these news letters and it

OK turkiya, I have read all these news letters and it


sounds interesting... but, I don't want a girl. I DON'T

WANT A BOY EITHER BY THE WAY! I want a woman! These

tactics seem so juvenile and childish. Something that

a high schooler would be intrigued by. What's in it

for the guy that is not into child's play. Other

useful information is how many megs of memory do I

need to get all the "books"?



gj

Sorry, but I'm only using your email for the benefit

Sorry, but I'm only using your email for the benefit of


myself and my MALE readers... lol. (Maybe I'll find it

in my heart to give you some advice after I'm finished

taking ruthless advantage of you...)



This email is very interesting to me because I have a

few friends who are VERY good with women who have

STOPPED APPROACHING WOMEN ALTOGETHER.



That's right, they don't approach women anymore, but

they're AMAZINGLY successful with them.



These guys have taken their skills, personalities, body

language, and communication skills to a level where

women actually want them before they've even spoken!



I'm betting that the men that this 23 year old Italian

college student/waitress is referring to have something

about them that is MORE than just their "looks". (By the

way, if you're reading this right now, please email me

again to confirm this)...



See, women are about ten times better at using body

language to communicate than men.



Next time you're out with a woman, point to a couple

and say "What's going on between them". You won't

believe all the body language she'll point out and

then interpret for you.



The point I'm trying to make here is that you can go

BEYOND just learning techniques to "approach" women.

You can actually learn how to get them to approach

you... really. It's all about body language... and

how you use it to communicate all the time (because

you are, in fact, communicating at all times... you

can't NOT communicate).



And as for you, my poor Italian 23 year old college

student and waitress...



Just walk up to a guy and say "Give me your number...

and MAYBE I'll call you sometime."

Hi, i'm M. (from Italy: here to visit my family),

Hi, i'm M. (from Italy: here to visit my family),

I'm 23 college student / waitress; judging by the e-mails

you been sending my brother about picking up women, it

seems as if you know what you're talking about, but being

a women I usually rely on guys just approaching me, but

there's a problem. Although I get my share of guys

approaching me, there is always one that I would have my

eye on that will NOT approach me... this seems to be

happening time and time again. I don't know if you're an

expert on THIS side of the field but I try to get his

attention by going a little closer, but it doesn't seem

to work. This is extremely frustrating to me, if you gave

me any explanation I would be very happy.

This is an AWESOME example of how to be COCKY AND FUNNY!

This is an AWESOME example of how to be COCKY AND FUNNY!



You're the man. My hero even.



To answer your question...



This is one of those issues that doesn't have a "right"

answer, but in GENERAL it's not a good idea to be the

"girlfriend" early on in the game.



After date number 10 do whatever you want. (In other

words, it's safer to help her with a situation like this

without being unconsciously thought of as "girlfriend-

man" later in the relationship. Just don't do it too

often or you'll become a Wuss candidate.)



Here's a good way to deal with "a woman that you're

getting to know who wants help with her problems":



As soon as you hear the "I have a problem and want

someone to talk to about it" tone of voice, IMMEDIATELY

ask "Is this something you want to solve or is it

something you want to just TALK about?"



If she just wants to TALK about it, say "I'll tell you

what, I think that you'd be better off talking to a

girlfriend about this, because I don't want to turn

into an old married couple so soon."



There's a fine line between being a cold human being

and letting her know that you're not her personal

free therapist.



Personal free therapists who "listen" are thought of as

WUSSY-BOY-GIRLIE-MAN-FRIENDS (as you well know)... and

their behavior doen NOT create ATTRACTION.

turkiya, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic

turkiya, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic. I was


trying to pick up a former Teacher Assistant of mine at

university for about a year. Sending nice email after

nice email, and getting totally stood up and/or blown

off. So I took the cf to the extreme. "I know you're

scared of meeting such an intelligent charismatic

rockstar like myself, because you'll fall so hopelessly

in love you couldn't take the rejection, fall into

habitual drinking, and eventually kill yourself... but

really its okay I'll treat you like an ass and you'll

hate me, and life will go on" Totally worked, the next

week she met me, and we hit it off really well, I kept up

the cf routine and we've been having a blast together.



My question is last night she really needed someone to

talk to, a lot of personal family issues to deal with.

Of course I lent and ear and in the end she felt a lot

better. But back when I was a wussy I used to do this

for women all the time, and as you can quite well

imagine I was always the 'friend'. Any thoughts?

As for the girl who gave you the "message service",

As for the girl who gave you the "message service", you


need to interpret that as follows:



She didn't find you interesting enough to give you her

REAL number. That's OK, you're doing a great job... but

you need to get EMAILS and REAL NUMBERS in the future.



One thing you can do is say "Is this a phone that you

actually answer in person?" If not, then give it back

to her and say "It's OK, give me your number."



When a woman asks your age, just say "Old enough to

know better than answer a question like that one...

how old are YOU?"



If they insist, just add 20 to your age and tell them

that. Be serious about it and really bust their balls.



Keep it up, you're probably close to a breakthrough!

After reading your emails for a few months.

Hi turkiya,




After reading your emails for a few months. I decided

to go the whole hog and buy your book. I have had some

success, after reading your book. I have come over

most of my fear about talking to woman. I did get one

girl's number, but it was a message service. I tried

calling her a few times. But never got hold of her. I

have also just gone to the local bar, with the idea:

"Ok i am not looking for a girlfriend, i am just going

to have a good time. Be cocky and funny..." so far i am

getting mixed reactions. So i have a couple of questions.



1) With the girl, who gave me her message service

number and situations like this how many time would

you say call. Before you say she is not interested -

Next. ( I did leave cocky funny messages )



2) The area i live in, the girls always wanting to

know my age. As per-book. I have tried to avoid a

direct answer. How about a cocky funny response, as i

tried a few of my own. But so far nothing works.



Many Thanks,



Nice Guy on the Jedi Road.

It means that you should STOP doing the following:

It means that you should STOP doing the following:



1) Having "nice" conversation.



2) Having a few drinks.



3) Laugh and "seem to connect".



And you should START doing the following:



1) Focus on getting emails and phone numbers, not getting

"nice conversation."



2) Avoid "having drinks". Instead have FOCUS (on your

outcome of getting her info).



3) Talk for a minute or two, then tell her that it was

nice meeting her, but you're going to get back to your

friends. Then turn around and say "Hey! Do you have

email?" Take out a pen and have her write it down.



When you're at a club, it's SOOOOO much easier to get

10 emails and numbers, then follow up later than to try

to land the big fish that night. Once you're the super-

duper-mack-daddy-from-hell you can go back to chat and

drinks... but for now get the info!



You'll find that things work a lot better when you're

having a conversation with her ALONE over a cup of tea

rather than in a loud bar full of sexually frustrated,

drunk men who want to show off and fight over women.

club/bar scene

I recently have had several of the same experiences in the


club/bar scene. I'll get a nice conversation going with a

girl. We will have a few drinks, laugh and seem to connect.

This dance goes on for awhile. Out of nowhere the girl

will say that she is tired and leave. What does this mean?

How does a woman communicate that she wants you to leave

with here?



GC, WashDC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I feel your pain on this one.




For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of

being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first meeting

to the bedroom.



And we always know when one of those risky situations is

staring us right between the eyes...



"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up

ALL of my chances with her."



"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"



"How should I ask her out?"



...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or

"Moments Of Truth."



If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY

likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up

not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.



Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman

thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."



And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"

for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?



My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one

Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.



There are things you can do at each step that make it

NATURAL for things to progress.



Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down

ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given

situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will

work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can

CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.



OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your

Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"

which contains my favorite ways to take things from

one step to the next...

***QUESTION***

turkiya,




I have been trying your cocky and funny stuff it works

like a charm But theres a problem with this one chick that i

like she is a flirt. whenever im around her she always be

flirting with me but the only problem is that i dont know

how to take the next step. if i take the next step im afraid

that shell probably move away. i dont wanna feel like a

dic*. so i wanna know how should i make a move on her and

not getting rejected. (I really need your advice)



-Student in NY, 21 years old

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.




What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?



You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What do

I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!



But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the

money... ouch.



When she laughed you should have said "Well?"



And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:



"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."



STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.



It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.



Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest

and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy

and don't want to hurt their feelings...

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.




What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?



You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What do

I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!



But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the

money... ouch.



When she laughed you should have said "Well?"



And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:



"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."



STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.



It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.



Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest

and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy

and don't want to hurt their feelings...

HOW TO AVOID BEING "JUST FRIENDS"

I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out with


one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung out.

everything was going good and i got her # by the end of the

night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we

got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a drink.

I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the laugh

and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i took

her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a

Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was goin

to call her the next week because i knew of a party the

following week. After calling her next week i had trouble

getting ahold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone. It

has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the

weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do u

see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?



thank you

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're a very, very bad man.




Kissing women you've just met on the lips?



In public?



You gotta love that.



And you're not rich or handsome? I don't believe it!



Of course, I've seen things like this happen so many

times that I actually DO believe it. In fact, most guys

would be very surprised if they realized just how open

many women are to kissing and "getting physical" when

they meet the right guy.



On to your questions...



ON LOOKS



As far as I'm concerned, LOOKS MATTER.



But interestingly enough, they matter for a different

reason than most guys think.



You see, women are always reading into things. They're

trying to figure out what things MEAN.



If a woman asks you if you have a close relationship

with your mom, she's not making casual conversation... she

wants to get deeper insight into how you handle

relationships. Are you with me?



My personal perspective is that IT'S NOT WHAT YOU'VE GOT,

IT'S HOW YOU USE IT. In other words, it's more important to

take care of yourself than it is to be naturally tall,

handsome, etc.



If you want to take your success with women up a notch or

two, I definitely think that it's a good idea to pay

attention to the personal presentation.



You don't have to go overboard and get plastic surgery,

liposuction, and hair implants, but a little attention to

detail can go a looooong way.



Think about it...



Generally, a stylish haircut doesn't cost any more than

an outdated haircut... but they say two completely different

things about you.



Clothes that fit correctly and flatter your particular

body type don't cost more...



Confident, dominant posture and slow, unhurried movements

don't require any more energy...



But all of these things, especially when combined and

used with other simple ideas can make a HUGE difference.



So to answer your question: Yes, looks can make a

difference to your success. If you have such a strong and

attractive personality that you attract women no matter

what, then you can look however you want. But if you're a

regular guy like me, then do everything you can. I mean,

hey... it really doesn't cost anything to look your best!

And women definitely notice.



ON GETTING WOMEN TO COME HOME WITH YOU



My focus isn't on "getting laid" alone, but I have a few

ideas that can help you.



A good friend once told me that a woman won't really want

to come DIRECTLY home with you. Women like to feel like

they've "been out" with you first.



So, to answer this concern, he goes out with women on

"mini dates" as soon as he meets them.



So, for instance, he might meet a woman at a bar or a

nightclub. Maybe they've had a few drinks together and

danced a few times... and things are going well.



He might suggest that they go to ANOTHER bar that's

close by...



When they leave TOGETHER and arrive at the other bar

TOGETHER they are now "TOGETHER". It creates a completely

different psychological setting and comfort level.



When they first met, they were just two people that

happened to be at the same bar. When they got to the

next bar, they were kind of "out on a date".



To a woman, this is a HUGE difference.



Then, after spending some time at the next bar (it's

late by this point), he'll ask her for a ride home, or

maybe suggest that she come over for a drink.



Because they've now "been out together" she tends to

feel a lot more comfortable coming over.



I usually recommend that guys approach women, get their

email and number, and move on. You can get 5 or 10 emails

and numbers in an evening, and then have dates during the

week (where you don't have to deal with distractions,

competition, etc.).



But if you're at the point where you're confident in your

skills, and this is what you want, then try the technique I

just explained. I know more than one guy that uses it, and

it seems to be a big winner.



And, if you're NOT at the point where you are confident

in your skills, then you need to get my online eBook

"Double Your Dating", and read every single page. It will

teach you all the secrets your mom and dad never told you

about... and show you how to have success with women that

you only dreamed possible.



In my book I talk more about how to improve your

appearance, how to dress, and even what types of colognes

to wear...



Just go to:



http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/



DATING TIP: REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ATTRACTS WOMEN

We all know what Reverse Psychology is, right?



Try this one on...



I once read that the surgeon general's warning on

cigarette packages may be one of the reasons why cigarettes

are so POPULAR.



Here's the logic: When a person sees that warning that is

telling them that it's dangerous to smoke, they think to

themselves "Hey, I'm living in the fast lane and I can

handle the danger... I'll show everyone how cool I am by

smoking these dangerous cigarettes..."



Interesting idea, isn't it?



Well, it doesn't really matter if you believe that

particular example. What does matter is that you learn

how to use the idea of Reverse Psychology to your

advantage when it comes to your success with women.



Reverse Psychology is powerful because it GOES AGAINST

COMMON LOGIC AND REASONING. Because of this, it's not

usually obvious (unless you make it obvious).



One of my favorite ways to use Reverse Psychology is

in situations with attractive women.



Most guys don't really think about the fact that most

attractive women are being told ALL THE TIME that they are

beautiful, attractive, stunning, etc.



And they don't realize that when they give an attractive

woman a compliment, it often backfires on them because

they are INSTANTLY seen as being the SAME as all the other

guys out there.



We humans like unique, interesting things... we don't like

the same old same old.



Let me ask you: Would you like to eat the same thing every

day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? I mean, even if you

got to have your very favorite food for all three meals it

would get old very fast.



The same goes here. Let me explain...



Let's say you're standing in line at the bank next to a

stunning woman. What would be the best approach to use to

open a conversation and get an email address, phone number

or a date?



Well, what most guys do is either:



1) Do nothing because they don't know what to do.



2) Say "You're beautiful" just like all the other guys.



3) Say "I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?"



Bad, bad, bad.



It would be MUCH better to say "Your shoe is untied" or

even "What time is it?" than any of these common, lame,

predictable comments or questions.



You probably realize that most of your communication is

not the words you use, but the body language and voice

tone that you use.



Well, it's important when you're meeting a woman for the

first time to stay cool, calm, and collected... and to

EVEN DO THINGS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED.



This will make her say "Hey, this guy isn't trying to

horn in on me... he seems DIFFERENT."



You can then continue to do one of my favorite things of

all time, and say "Hey, you seem nice... like you might

make a nice FRIEND. Give me your number and I'll call

you next week and maybe we can be FRIENDS."



I hope you understand what I'm saying here. By being

unusual and challenging, you immediately separate

yourself from the 'average' guy who just acts all

starstruck.



Now, this is just one example, and there are many

exceptions to this idea. If you look like Brad Pitt you

can say anything you want. And this type of approach

works best on VERY ATTRACTIVE women.



Now that you have the idea, how can you adapt it to

your particular situation? Take some time to think about

it, and I think that you'll realize that you can use

reverse psychology in many different situations to

separate yourself from the crowd.



In my book "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire

section describing the exact character traits and

techniques that help to separate you from all the other

guys in the world.



Just go to:



http://deal2deal.blog.com/



...for all the details.



I'll talk to you soon.



Your friend,



David D.

www.doubleyourdating.com



P.S. When you come to my website, make sure to read the

sample section about teasing to learn more about how to

use Reverse Psychology.

Q&A: HOW DO I GET HER TO COME HOME WITH ME?

Again, you're da man! I've found a new bar and grill here in


Miami where all of these HOT college girls hang out at. I've

been using you're C & F approach to get the conversation

going with these hot chicks and 9 times out of 10 they fall

for it every time. After about 5 minutes into the

conversation, they get this look on their face like "I can't

believe I've been actually talking to this guy this long". I

mean... look at me, I'm not buffed out or have killer abs,

just your average Joe. But then it gets better, with most

of these girls the conversation gets so funny and cute and

so comfortable that I take it to the next level "The Kissing

Test". That's right! I'm sometimes kissing on the lips

(sometimes with my tongue down their throats) HOT CHICKS in

public! (I used to watch other guys do this and be envious

of them, I used to be a playa-hater) And sometimes it

happens twice or even three times with 2 or three different

girls. This especially happens when I'm freak dancing and

teasing some hot chic. I'm just waiting to take some of

these girls home from this new bar that I've been hanging

out at.



I have just 2 questions for ya...



1) I seem to be more successful after a nice haircut and

trimmed mustache and goa-tee and putting on a nice shirt

for clubbing. I know women look at physical after

personality but let me ask you aren't looks or appearance

still important to enhance the C & F?



2) Once the conversation is comfortable enough to where we

are actually 2 strangers kissing in public (one HOT CHICK

and one Average Joe) what can I say to get her to go home

with me?



Thanks...



V.K.

For you Dear

***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,

or Comment, follow these guidelines***



1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.



2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your

question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"

and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"

comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of

the specifics... because this helps other guys to see

what's working in different situations.



3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in

the subject line of the email. I read these first.



4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell

me where you're from.



5) Send it to me at:



turkiya786@gmail.com

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love letters like this one...




OK, to answer your first question... EVERY SINGLE LETTER

THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY NEWSLETTERS IS

REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.



I have every one of the originals saved to prove it.



To answer one of your comments of "I can't believe that

a book can really do that much for a guy"...



IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.



It's a combination of the material in the book and

actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.



It's taken me YEARS of trial and error... trying just

about everything under the sun to learn the things that

I've put in my book. I really went out there and did

the work. I tried and tested everything I could find.



I think it's the best investment you'll ever make in

your dating life, personally.



And hey, it comes with a simple money-back guarantee:



If you're not 100% satisfied with your purchase, just

email and ask for a refund.... AND YOU CAN KEEP THE

BOOK AND BONUSES FOR YOUR HASSLE.



I want you to write me a success story in the future,

not ask for your money back!



So do yourself a favor, and get it while the gettin's

good...



And if you're reading this right now, and it's time for

YOU to get this part of your life handled... and finally

start enjoying the kind of success with women that you've

only dreamed about it the past, just go to:



http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/



...and download it now.



And I'll talk to you again soon.



Your Friend,



turkiya

***QUESTION***

Dear turkiya,




I just started receiving your newsletter. And I was just

curious about the letters that are coming in. Are these

letters from real guys or is it something that 's written

by your staff just to sell your ebook? I can't honestly

believe a book can really do that much for a guy. I get

another newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't

seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write about.



Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50 yr young

man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health. Have all my hair

and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I want to shed that image but

not be an asshole if you know what I mean. I don't want to

even tell you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can

your book really help a guy like me. I've been going on the

online dating seen but don't always see what I want which

is a sexy young woman. Also, how young can I acceptably go.

Anything you can tell me would be a help.



Sign me,



Not getting enough

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10 MORE


WOMEN!!!



Duh!



And what are you doing writing to me asking for advice on

how to un-screw-up your situation... and you haven't even

read my book? Go to http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

NOW and get it. You are doing great, you just need to get

some of the details together.



And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU LIKE HER!

And start acting like the Cocky and Funny guy that make

her respond to you!

QUESTION

Hey turkiya,




You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the e-book

yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic work firsthand,

just from the newsletters I have been getting. Check this

out! About a week ago, I send an email to a totally rad

chick suggesting that we meet for coffee. I used the

movie "You've Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and

although it was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that

it was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO REPLY

for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email, this time

busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well I guess my

dazzling good looks and wicked sense of humor didn't catch

your fancy, eh?" The response was lightning fast and

almost instantaneous!!! She wrote that she had every

intention of returning my email, but she was "out of town"

blah blah blah, and she would meet me for coffee sometime.

I really believe that if I had not sent her that second

email, I never would have gotten a reply to the first one.



Here's the question (and problem): In addition to the "ball

busting" in my second email, I also told her I liked her!

(a big faux pas, I know, but I never expected a reply!) She

had taught a class of which I was a student, and I made a

comment like, "Well I'm probably not the first of your

students to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the

cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this damaging

admission? I already sent her a reply email, in which I

poured on the cocky/funny, but I wanted to get your input

and hopefully I made the right choice by my reply.



Thanks turkiya!



--C.K.



San Francisco, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.




I have a good friend who can't drive up next to a woman

without flirting. He likes to "waggle his eyebrows" at

every woman he sees.



Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your brows

and wave. When she smiles, make the old fashioned motion

of rolling down your window to her, and roll down yours.



Finally, take out your cel phone, point to it, and say

"What's your number?"



I've done variations of this myself, and had some great

fun success with it.

QUESTION

 Dave,


Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of

times I like to drive with the windows down, music

blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I find

myself waiting at a stop light with a good-looking

girl waiting next to me. Some of these girls, we make

eye contact, others just glance over. Sometimes I'll

drive for miles with the same girl to the side of me.

The problem is I never really know what to do next. So

I guess my question to you is this:



1. How do I get her to roll down her window?



2. Once she does, what should I tell her?



I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know they're

not looking at that, but I'm just uncertain how to get

her attention.



Thanks for the help.



R. in So Cal

MY COMMENTS

Here's the answer...




List the 10 most common situations you find yourself

meeting women in... and list 10 cocky and funny things

to say in each situation.



Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so you

have them ready!



If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny doesn't

come "naturally", then you're going to have to PRACTICE.



Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make their sports

look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY dominate all of the other

players around them?



Practice, of course.



Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and start

practicing. Practice makes magic.

QUESTION

Your are the man. I have been using your cocky funny


method on girls i already know and see the difference in

the way they act towards me, they seem to definatly be

more interested. My dilemma is that i run out of cocky

comments and little jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop

yesterday with one of my buddies and there were two cute

girls in front of us who smiled at us when we where in

line and i looked back and smiled but i had no idea what

to say to them or what to make fun of and they got what

the wanted and left. I simply had no idea what funny

comment to make.

MY COMMENTS

If you're at that stage where you'd like to use your newly


found success to attract only "sex buddies"... and you

don't want the women you date to think of you as their

"boyfriend", then DON'T ACT LIKE ONE.



Don't call more than once or twice a week. Don't stay on

the phone for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Don't see her

more than once or twice a week.



In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.



I know this sounds rather simple, but think about it...



Women are just as interested in sex as men are.



In my experience, if a woman knows that you're only

interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.



The problems come up when you start calling all the

time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you care for

her...



At this point a woman starts to become emotionally

attached to you. She thinks that you're becoming her

boyfriend.



If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't act

like one!

QUESTION

Hi Turkiya,




Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy, 22

years old. I always had the fear to approach beautiful

women. I'm funny by nature, but only with my friends.

I've totally changed my behavior with women, when I've

read your book. I now meet women on every step (bar,

caffe, library,...), using your C&F approach and a lot

of them are in my bed in a week or so. Now the only

problem at the moment is, that all of those women want a

commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-buddy";).

Of course, they don't want to hear about that. So after

first sex, when I try to explain to her, what I want,

either she gets mad and I can go ;) or I am the biggest

male egoist... bla bla bla.



So, tell me, is there any way to do that with success?



Tnx again,



B. from Slovenia

MY COMMENTS

Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm not going to


address how you should choose a woman to settle down with...



But I will comment on your question of whether or not there

is a point when you should stop "playing games" and "be

nice to these women".



The mindset and techniques that I teach are not my idea of

a "short term technique to get laid". Once you start using

the methods, you'll find that women respond to them on an

ONGOING basis. In other words, if you can keep up the

charming, Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman

feeling attracted to you FOREVER.



"Nice" is not a word that you want associated with yourself,

in my opinion. Women aren't ATTRACTED to guys who are "nice".



Be interesting, unpredictable... even thoughtful and original.



But don't be NICE.



Think about it.

MY COMMENTS:

First of all, YES, there are women who will only talk


to you if you have money...



BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.



If a woman feels the magical emotion of ATTRACTION, then

it matters not how much money you have.



I used to believe that it was probably only guys who had

nice cars and lots of cash got to go out with all the

women...



But then, as I got to know more and more guys who were

VERY successful with women, I realized that it came down

to their personalities more than anything else... including

looks, height, money, etc.



In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are very

successful with women aren't rich at all.



You need to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION by

using your personality. That's the ticket.



Really.





***QUESTION***



Hi Dave:



I have been reading your material for a few months now.

One of the best things I learned about your work is how

to get e-mail addresses and phone numbers from women. I

have great success at this point. This has also helped

my business.



I need help in two areas that involves taking it to the

next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle down.

Firstly, how can I figure out which one of these girls

is the BEST for me in terms of personality and chemistry.

My last relationship lasted a year and a half and did not

work because we were always busting each others chops.

Secondly, I think there is a point when we just need to

stop playing games and be nice to these women... What do

you think?



B. NYC

COMMENT

It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to your


newsletter and buy the book - myself included - are average

guys who have trouble with girls just because they are

afraid of getting rejected. I've got an idea that might

help. Get two or three good friends together and have a

'contest' where the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day

or a night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc. going up

to girls with the sole intention of having them reject you,

and whoever gets rejected the most times wins. Try out any

approach - good or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude,

funny, serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want, and

take notes on how the girls react. If she slaps your face,

that's fine because that's the goal. And if she doesn't

shoot you down, that's even better. After a night like

this you'll become a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in

the future, and you'll have a better understanding of how

girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a

different city for the weekend and try it out there, so

that you aren't afraid of running into these girls again.



- C.L.

Find an attractive woman

Find an attractive woman and read this newsletter to


her. She'll laugh her ass off at what I just wrote. Really.



Of course, if you would like to take a look at the

"Teacher's Edition" of the high-school algebra book and

learn some of the secrets that it's taken me literally

YEARS to learn, then I'd recommend that you download a copy

of my online eBook "Double Your Dating." It's full of

literally DOZENS of the very best ideas for taking things

from one step to the next. Just go to:

http://turkiya.blog.com/