Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".

Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".




If you mean "When can I talk about how I'm sad because

my dog got run over and my inner child needs a hug", then

NEVER is the answer.



Well, maybe you can have one "serious" conversation like

this on the 10th date, and it can last no longer than 5

minutes.



Just stay away from heavy emotional issues, problems,

drama, and general WUSS topics.



If you need a friend, GET A DOG!



lol... I forgot where that line is from, but I love it.







***QUESTION***



Mr. DeAngelo,



Well, I've got to say, after trying many, many different

methods, yours have been the first ones to work. I cut and

pasted your online personal add and sent it out to a few

women on a college-oriented site. This is after trying

(unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort of response

from the women on the site. Before reading the newsletters,

I would've typically sent out about 20 e-mails, and got 1

response if I was lucky. This time, however, I sent out

about 5 or 6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable!

Now, for the tricky part...getting the number and the date.

I've got some leads, and I want to keep my C&F attitude up.

I'm just normally funny, but need practice at being cocky.

(I'm either too subtle, or too extreme, so I'm practicing at

finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime, what kind of

C&F response would you give to a University-aged woman?



G.



>>>MY COMMENTS:



Good job.



There are all kinds of great topics you could work with.



You could make fun of the classes they're taking, bust on

them for taking easy classes, accuse them of taking 10

years to get a 4 year degree... the list is endless.



Since you're going to be meeting these women at some

point, make sure you go and do things with them that have

"built in conversation value". Go to interesting, fun

parts of town with unusual and interesting shops.



This kind of thing creates all kinds of opportunity

for great comments... and it keeps the energy up all by

itself.



Now that you're meeting women online, do yourself a

big favor and practice your skills CHATTING with women.



Chatting is great because it slows the conversation down

to about 1/5 the normal speed, and gives you time to plan

out what you're saying.







***QUESTION***



Dear turkiya,



I'm real sorry but I still cannot figure out how to build

bridges after getting the email address. Normally the next

day I send the lady an email, she replies and then I can't

think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get

with her - so can you help me man?



I.M.

Ooooooo, good question.

Ooooooo, good question.




I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be

Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.



As they're learning the techniques, they become more and

more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing

woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",

and they decide to start a relationship.



As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to

put aside the things that worked, and start being more

and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new

woman away.



Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet

and a good guy but still have all the super hot women

calling me 24/7".



Here's what I say:



"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN,

NOT A RIGHT.



And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes

to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to

NOT drive women away, then make these things part of

"YOURSELF".



Are you with me here?



The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys

means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any

ATTRACTION for".



If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION,

then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If

you're not willing to do the work and make the changes

more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long

uphill battle.



And in your case, you have to realize that this woman

was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that

REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.