Once you get a default way to handle each common
situation, and you start experiencing SUCCESS on a regular
basis with women, you'll GAIN the ability to create
better ideas on the spot.
Action Steps:
1) Choose the one situation that happens most often, the one
that you'd like to have an EXACT default sequence of words
and behaviors to use to get you to the next level.
2) Close your eyes, and mentally run through the last five
or ten situations like this that you were in.
3) Brainstorm 10 or 20 great ways that you could handle
this particular situation in the future.
4) Choose the one single best idea on the list, and refine
it down to an exact sequence.
5) Close your eyes again and mentally rehearse it. See
yourself doing it in your mind's eye. Move around and play
it out... if you need to stand up, do it. Actually imagine
that a woman is in the room with you, and pretend that
you're getting her number, kissing her, or whatever.
6) If your mom comes into your room, quickly transition
into "Macbeth" and claim that you were improvising on
Shakespeare!
Seriously, it's ULTRA important for you to know what
you're going to do next time you're talking to a woman and
you want to ask for her email of phone number.
If you don't know what you're going to do and exactly
how to do it, then you're probably going to come across
like Mr. Smooth in the cel phone store...
Here's the irony of this situation:
WOMEN WANT YOU TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP!
But if you don't, then they won't either.
A woman will think to herself... "He seems nice, funny,
interesting. I wish he'd ask me for my number... Oh, he's
nervous... how cute. Well, if he can't get up the nerve to
ask me for my number, then I'm not going to overcome his
inner WUSSY and do it for him. Poor thing."
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Sunday, September 5, 2010
ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN ANY SITUATION
One of the concepts that I really think is valuable to
get a handle on is called "Always have one default thing to
do in every common situation."
It's amazing to me when I watch a guy interacting with a
woman, and everything is going well... and then it's time
for him to either step up and make something happen, or
walk away like the wuss he is for NOT taking action...
...AND HE JUST DOESN'T DO IT!
Ohhhhhhhh I hate it when that happens.
I'm sure you've never had this happen. Neither have I,
of course.
I was out yesterday at the cell phone store getting a new
phone (because a certain company who's name starts with "S"
has the worst customer service on the planet)... sorry, I
digress... and I witnessed a painful episode of "Wuss Drops
The Ball" right before my eyes.
A tall, blonde model-type girl was waiting to get
herself a new antenna for her phone, and Mr. Smooth started
a conversation with her by saying "What kind of phone do
you have?"
The conversation was going along well, and they were
both smiling and laughing about phones and such.
Finally, Ms. Model walked up to the counter and got her
new antenna, then said "good bye" to Mr. Wuss-Of-All-Time,
who proceeded to smile dorkily at her and wave as she
walked out of his life forever.
He just watched her walk all the way to the other end
of the store, out the door, and out of sight.
You've probably seen the "I'm SUCH a loser" look.
Well, he had it.
IT WAS GOING SO WELL FOR HIM! WHY DIDN'T HE JUST ASK
HER FOR SOME INFO? EMAIL? NUMBER? ANYTHING!
He had that look in his eye of "Damn. I really should
have just asked her for her number."
Twenty bucks says that he thought about that girl all
day long, and imagined 47 different great things that he
SHOULD have said in the moment - but didn't.
The only reason I'm so sure of this is because I used
to do this exact thing myself all the time. And now I
know that many, many guys go through scenarios like this
every day - but never get any positive results because
they're not READY TO ACT IN THE MOMENT.
For some strange reason, many guys feel compelled to
come up with some UNIQUE and ORIGINAL way to handle
every situation. And you know what that usually leads
to... (right, a date with Rosy Palmer and her 5 sisters).
So what's the answer?
The answer is to have ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN
EVERY COMMON SITUATION.
One way to start conversations with women.
One way to ask for emails and/or phone numbers.
One way to take things to a physical level.
One place to go out with a woman...
...etc., etc., etc....
I can hear it now:
"But David, it sounds kind of corny to ask every woman
for her number the same way..."
I get it.
I used to feel the same way.
But here's the deal: If you will just take the time to
learn and prepare ONE simple way to handle each of the most
common situations, you'll be about a hundred times more
successful than if you try to "figure out something unique
and original on the spot" every time.
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