Wednesday, September 8, 2010

How to do it Right

Once you get a default way to handle each common

situation, and you start experiencing SUCCESS on a regular

basis with women, you'll GAIN the ability to create

better ideas on the spot.



Action Steps:



1) Choose the one situation that happens most often, the one

that you'd like to have an EXACT default sequence of words

and behaviors to use to get you to the next level.



2) Close your eyes, and mentally run through the last five

or ten situations like this that you were in.



3) Brainstorm 10 or 20 great ways that you could handle

this particular situation in the future.



4) Choose the one single best idea on the list, and refine

it down to an exact sequence.



5) Close your eyes again and mentally rehearse it. See

yourself doing it in your mind's eye. Move around and play

it out... if you need to stand up, do it. Actually imagine

that a woman is in the room with you, and pretend that

you're getting her number, kissing her, or whatever.



6) If your mom comes into your room, quickly transition

into "Macbeth" and claim that you were improvising on

Shakespeare!



Seriously, it's ULTRA important for you to know what

you're going to do next time you're talking to a woman and

you want to ask for her email of phone number.



If you don't know what you're going to do and exactly

how to do it, then you're probably going to come across

like Mr. Smooth in the cel phone store...



Here's the irony of this situation:



WOMEN WANT YOU TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP!



But if you don't, then they won't either.



A woman will think to herself... "He seems nice, funny,

interesting. I wish he'd ask me for my number... Oh, he's

nervous... how cute. Well, if he can't get up the nerve to

ask me for my number, then I'm not going to overcome his

inner WUSSY and do it for him. Poor thing."

Sunday, September 5, 2010

ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN ANY SITUATION





One of the concepts that I really think is valuable to


get a handle on is called "Always have one default thing to

do in every common situation."



It's amazing to me when I watch a guy interacting with a

woman, and everything is going well... and then it's time

for him to either step up and make something happen, or

walk away like the wuss he is for NOT taking action...



...AND HE JUST DOESN'T DO IT!



Ohhhhhhhh I hate it when that happens.



I'm sure you've never had this happen. Neither have I,

of course.



I was out yesterday at the cell phone store getting a new

phone (because a certain company who's name starts with "S"

has the worst customer service on the planet)... sorry, I

digress... and I witnessed a painful episode of "Wuss Drops

The Ball" right before my eyes.



A tall, blonde model-type girl was waiting to get

herself a new antenna for her phone, and Mr. Smooth started

a conversation with her by saying "What kind of phone do

you have?"



The conversation was going along well, and they were

both smiling and laughing about phones and such.



Finally, Ms. Model walked up to the counter and got her

new antenna, then said "good bye" to Mr. Wuss-Of-All-Time,

who proceeded to smile dorkily at her and wave as she

walked out of his life forever.



He just watched her walk all the way to the other end

of the store, out the door, and out of sight.



You've probably seen the "I'm SUCH a loser" look.

Well, he had it.



IT WAS GOING SO WELL FOR HIM! WHY DIDN'T HE JUST ASK

HER FOR SOME INFO? EMAIL? NUMBER? ANYTHING!



He had that look in his eye of "Damn. I really should

have just asked her for her number."



Twenty bucks says that he thought about that girl all

day long, and imagined 47 different great things that he

SHOULD have said in the moment - but didn't.



The only reason I'm so sure of this is because I used

to do this exact thing myself all the time. And now I

know that many, many guys go through scenarios like this

every day - but never get any positive results because

they're not READY TO ACT IN THE MOMENT.



For some strange reason, many guys feel compelled to

come up with some UNIQUE and ORIGINAL way to handle

every situation. And you know what that usually leads

to... (right, a date with Rosy Palmer and her 5 sisters).



So what's the answer?



The answer is to have ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN

EVERY COMMON SITUATION.



One way to start conversations with women.



One way to ask for emails and/or phone numbers.



One way to take things to a physical level.



One place to go out with a woman...



...etc., etc., etc....



I can hear it now:



"But David, it sounds kind of corny to ask every woman

for her number the same way..."



I get it.



I used to feel the same way.



But here's the deal: If you will just take the time to

learn and prepare ONE simple way to handle each of the most

common situations, you'll be about a hundred times more

successful than if you try to "figure out something unique

and original on the spot" every time.